Pornography Addiction

Pornography addiction is the pursuit of happiness, which quickly becomes a claw and captures the consumer. It is often a hunt for the "ultimate image" which only dismisses the consumer with a "hangover" back to reality. Since men tend to be more visual, they are more susceptible to pornography addiction. They hunt and know that they will never find.  The longing remains, and the addiction ruins them; life becomes more and more grey and empty. Addiction to pornography becomes the hidden and wrong partner, the one we cannot get rid of so quickly, like any other addiction, it is a flight from reality.

 

My attitude as your counselor

I create a safe, respectful, non-judgmental, open environment. I am clear, encouraging, confronting, resource-oriented, patient, motivating.  I understand this addiction and the way out of it from personal experience.

 

The consultation

Have you had multiple cessation attempts behind you and you have probably been aware of your addiction for several years. You have tried on your own, probably with coercion and oppression, but without much success.

I congratulate you on your decision to find a way out of addiction and begin to be honest with yourself and the people around you. I acknowledge you for your willingness to leave the faking, minimizing, hiding, concealing and repressing, a conscious or unconscious central component of any addiction, behind you. On your way towards healing the first step will be to draw an honest conclusion. To openly and honestly admit your weaknesses in front of witnesses takes you out of the isolation and secrecy and allows years of your history to start healing. Addiction is a lonely business and is often an expression of loneliness.

Do you want to get a consultation because you feel pressure from your family or your employer? I invite you to take full responsibility for your own healing. For a sustainable transformation process, it is not enough if you want to change for another person. You have to want to change for yourself - it is your life!

It is however also worth noting that you are not alone with your problems.

 

The recovery

The recovery from pornography addiction occurs in two phases: First, the withdrawal phase, followed by reappraising the underlying issues.

 

Phase 1: withdrawal

  • where are you intact – finding the positive?
  • strip away passivity
  • learning self-care
  • release unhealthy shame
  • addiction inventory
  • use internet blocking programs
  • practice thought-stopping and distraction
  • learning to relax and meditate
  • learn to accept relapses and draw strength from it
  • building relationships
  • learn to deal with feelings

 

Phase 2: the causes

  • isolation and loneliness
  • fear of intimacy and loss
  • stress
  • boredom
  • hatred of woman and/or men
  • inner longings
  • sexual abuse
  • co-dependency
  • prevention

 

I recommend bringing your partner into any phase of the healing. It is particularly beneficial in the first phase and I am very happy to offer a safe space for this healing to occur if both parties agree.

 

Price: CHF / AUD 1500.00 for a block of 15 hours of counselling. A mix of Skype/Zoom and in Person

 

I would like to invite you to personally meet me for a free 30 minutes introduction before making your decision to work with me. This meeting may take place in person or via WhatsApp Call or Skype.

I look forward to meeting you.  It will be a great honour to guide you into a new dimension of your quality of life.

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